Comments for The Missing Piece

Comment on Private transracial fostering by missinpiece

missinpiece — Fri, 13 Nov 2009 00:27:22 +0000

You are welcome… I’m still interested in posting something about you/your story if you want to share anything… No pressure, of course!

Comment on Private transracial fostering by Precious Williams

Precious Williams — Thu, 12 Nov 2009 17:45:29 +0000

Thanks for posting about this issue!

Comment on About Me by Rudi Richardson

Rudi Richardson — Wed, 04 Nov 2009 17:22:30 +0000

The Ribbons Are Alive

LATTER DAY JOYS UNFOLDED
IN THE LIFE OF THIS ADOPTED CHILD
AS HIS CHILD-MADE CASTLES OF HOPE
BECAME AN [OH-SO-PRECIOUS] FIND,

HIS FEVERENT WISH ANSWERED
FROM THAT OFT VISITED PRIVATE WORLD
WHERE REAL TIME STILLED
AND ALL DREAMS BECAME KIND.

STEELING FROM THE WIND
LIKE A TRANSPLANTED FLOWER
ON A BORROWED FIELD
WHERE THE SUNLIGHT HALF SHONE,

NO ONE ASIDE FROM GOD
FELT HIS TENDER LONGING….
“I KNOW MY REAL MOMMY IS COMING.
IS THAT HER ON THE PHONE?”

I CANNOT MOVE AWAY
FROM THIS BEAUTIFUL LIFE STORY
AS THIS CHILD AND I ARE STILL PLAYING
CARVING RIBBONS IN THE SKY,

WE ARE TRYING TO MAKE GOOD
THE WISHES OF ALL ADOPTED CHILDREN
THOSE SPECIAL SPECIAL KINDRED SPIRITS
WHO MAKES THEIR GUARDIAN ANGELS CRY.

Rudi RichardsonUdo Ackermann

Comment on birthday blues by missinpiece

missinpiece — Sat, 17 Oct 2009 00:13:06 +0000

thanks Crystal for reading and commenting. i have also found reading other adoptee and transracial adoptee blogs really helpful. they make me feel a little more ‘normal’, whatever that is… i hope you find a peaceful way to acknowledge your birthday… best, mp

Comment on birthday blues by Crystal

Crystal — Thu, 15 Oct 2009 18:00:13 +0000

THANK YOU for this website. As much as friends, family members and colleagues try (although often half-assed-ly) to understand the emotional issues adoptees (transracial or not) face, they simply do/can not. Blogs like yours and others are so helpful for me to accept the fact that being an adoptee is and will always be a significant aspect of my identity. So again, thanks. I also like your idea of ‘acknowledging’ birthdays. Mine is quickly approaching, and chocolate cake & nina simone on a quiet evening sounds right up my alley!!

Comment on birthday blues by missinpiece

missinpiece — Tue, 29 Sep 2009 21:28:38 +0000

I’ve been downplaying my birthday for the last several years and I think my family and close friends get that about me now. Even still, I usually gently remind my husband – who likes any occasion to celebrate – that I really don’t want to celebrate.

Comment on A Different Kind of Love by missinpiece

missinpiece — Tue, 29 Sep 2009 21:23:47 +0000

It is not a pleasant article. To me, it just points out one of the things that can go wrong with adoptions. What to do about it I don’t know…

Comment on A Different Kind of Love by Tereasa

Tereasa — Mon, 28 Sep 2009 15:43:26 +0000

I am not sure I want to read the article. It sounds terrible. As an adoptive mother and a biological mother, I’d like to jump into the conversation. For each of my children, there was an instant feeling of joy and love when I found out about them, whether by pregnancy test, phone call or profile picture. Each feeling was the same. That is not unconditional love, though. That initial feeling every mom feels is temporary. Unconditional love is the act of being there in the tough and ugly times. It is the feeling of devotion that comes through working together and surviving together. This has come so differently with each of my children. Therefore, it is different for each child. The measure of love is the same, though. Just like apples and oranges. They are so different, yet a pound of fruit is a pound of fruit… and so yummy!

Comment on birthday blues by Sang-Shil

Sang-Shil — Tue, 22 Sep 2009 23:01:02 +0000

I like the idea of “acknowledging” a birthday, rather than celebrating it per se. As you know, these last few years I’ve been struggling with how to reconcile my own feelings of loss around my birthday with my family’s feelings of joy. Your day sounds like it was a nice balance.

And I’ll never say no to a piece of chocolate cake!

Comment on birthday blues by Zetta

Zetta — Sat, 19 Sep 2009 00:16:24 +0000

Lovely song–never heard her sing that before. Glad your day was as you wished, if a little blue…